Why is taking compliments so hard? Do we really not appreciate when someone notices how we look, something we have done, a gesture, etc.? For many years I found myself downplaying a kind remark from others.
“That dress looks great on you!” “Oh this old thing? I have had it for years”
“You are a wonderful hostess.” “It was no trouble; I just took the easy way out.”
“Your hair looks lovely.” “I just had it styled. It won’t look like this when I do it myself.”
“I enjoy your blog.” “We are still learning how to navigate the site.”
You get the picture. We make excuses, unable to imagine there is anything worth complimenting. Or are we attempting to be humble?
Several years ago I complimented a friend who retorted “I just can’t seem to get things right.” It hit me. Was she discounting my observation? Was my opinion not worthy of her respect? Did she not feel worthy of being noticed? I began to understand that the correct response is a simple Thank You.
Cynthia Ozick stated “We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.”
If a simple thank you is difficult, there are numerous ways to thank a person. Thank them for being in your corner, always lifting you up. Say “I appreciate that” or “You are very kind to say that.” Even “You just made my day!”
For less formal interactions, “thanks” may be appropriate among friends, family, and familiar co-workers. Thank you, is more formal and may better express sincerity. You will know the situation for yourself and the person from whom you receive the compliment.
Regardless, it is important to accept praise graciously – to treat compliments as the gift they are. Be genuine in your response, maintain eye contact, smile, and never, never downplay the compliment. In short, be grateful and kind to others.
Finally, I just want to say, “thank you for taking the time to read our blogs. We appreciate you!”
Silver Sage Sisters 