Some of my friends have lamented they are finding themselves alone for dinner. In the past, many of us refused to go to a restaurant without a friend, a date, or possibly another family member. Personally, I rarely went to a restaurant alone, even when on a business trip. It just felt awkward. Upon reflection, I imagine it was more a lack of self-confidence. I mean, I ate. I ate alone. Yet, I was alone in my hotel room or at home.
Have you dined alone this year? If so, you are in good company. OpenTable reported that 60% of Americans have dined alone at least once in 2024. That figure is up 29% over the previous two years. One reason for this may be because people are working remotely. Or they are marrying later and thus living alone (which is quite a conjecture, in my humble opinion). Debby Soo, CEO at OpenTable suggests enjoying one’s own company is a result of the broader movement of self-care.
Reflecting on dining alone made me think. At our age, many of us are finding ourselves alone for the first time, having lost a spouse or a family member or a friend. It’s a hazard of aging. Another reason may be that we are more discerning about how we spend our time and with whom. We no longer feel obligated to go out with acquaintances just to be with someone, especially those we tolerate, rather than enjoy.
I have spent most of my adult life as a single, professional, woman. I recall decades ago coming to the realization that I can enjoy dining alone. I took to heart an article I read that suggested setting a lovely table, even if it is only for myself. That must be part of the reason I began tablescaping. Over the years I have found gazing out the window, listening to music, or enjoying the flicker of a candle while eating was as satisfying as being in a restaurant.
On another note, when eating at a restaurant, I would take along a notepad or a book. If I began to feel conspicuous, I would simply pull out the book and read or jot notes about things that needed to be done.
In other words, I learned eating alone gave me another level of independence and confidence. And, when the opportunity presents itself to share mealtime with another person, I will always enjoy the company, knowing it is a choice, rather than feeling the need to have a dining partner. Bon appetite!
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