Monikers

Mary Ann

How can I help you, Young Lady?  How many times have your heard this?  Does it make you angry or insult you?  Among my friends, there is mixed reactions to being referred to as a young girl with gray hair.  

It only seems to happen to women.  I don’t recall my father being called young man.  I am not sure you know a husband or father being called that.  I don’t think older men would put up with it.  As older women, we tend to do so.  I guess we don’t want to make a scene, no matter how angry it makes us or how insulted we are.  It is not worth the effort!

However, a moniker is an informal term for a name, nickname, alias, or handle and is often used to describe someone or something with a characteristic label.  The Big Apple is a moniker for New York City.  So that kind of moniker is a positive use of a name.  It is debatable if young lady is a positive moniker.

When we are called young lady, maybe we should try to see it in a more positive light.  At least, you are being recognized when you are addressed.  Maybe the person is really giving you a compliment trying to make you feel special.  Most of the time, it is a young person greeting you.  They are not saying, “Hello, Old Lady.”  I think that often Miss is a better way to acknowledge you.  Since we are women of a certain age, we often are taken good care of by the waiter or clerk afterwards. 

I think as women of certain age, we should smile rather than grumbling about the moniker.  We can give grace.  We can show the young person we are classy ladies.  If you feel that you need to say something – that “young lady” makes you uncomfortable, say it.  The person probably didn’t give it a second thought but will think about it in the future. 

As I was writing this blog, the phone rang, and an appointment clerk had called to verify a doctor’s appointment.  When the person was hanging up, she said, “Goodbye, Hon.” I know her so it was an endearment and not an insult.  Life is too short to dwell on such a small slight.  So next time you are addressed as young lady or sweetheart, be a sweetheart and give the person a smile.  Take it as a compliment.  It will make the world a little brighter, and we need more of that!